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I meet/see/observe different kinds of people every single day and it is so interesting that some of them are extremely interesting, some are so weird, and many are just plain fun to observe!I just love observing people, imagining how they lead their lives and what they are thinking while they are walking past me. I just wonder if any of these random people are ever going to come into my life! I have many good experiences and some not that good. I link myself to each person whom I see or meet and try to learn something from his/her behavior.
There is one person I don't want to be linked with or ever want to meet again: my Computer Science TA (teaching assistant) who I respected and thought highly of him because he helped me a lot in understanding C++. I took his class a year back. Recently, I met him in a cafe and I was very excited to see him. I was talking to him and told him about how I switched to Communication because I was not interested in Engineering. He smiled and said "well, girls are better at such soft arts and should not take up CS". The respect I had for him just vanished. He has no clue about the capabilities of a girl/women. First of all, girls are very intelligent and second of all every field is equally important and challenging. Passion is the key to success. I was not interested in Engineering which made me unhappy. Though I was uninterested and did not put any effort I did pretty well as a Computer Science student. I chose a different career path because I don't want to curse myself in the future for not following my passion and be a miserable rat forever. Today, when I am actually following my passion, I feel that this field is equally challenging and requires a different set of skills altogether. The difference is I love my major and want to make a career out of this course of study. It wasn't that I was not intelligent enough to pursue engineering, it was just that I was more concerned about my happiness and interest. So neither engineering nor any other 'soft field' is superior nor inferior. Every course, every field, every subject is equally important and equally challenging. Stereotyping is one of the worst things ever. So I decided to show people like him that we girls are intelligent and that stereotyping is just a way to make snap judgements about people which are wrong and plain rude. I do not hate him or anything, I just feel sad for him because he is clearly backward in his thoughts. This is the 21st century, where girls/women are succeeding in all fields including the male dominated fields. Such people just need to fast forward their minds to the current situation and realize that they are way behind. Anyway, I just needed to put that out because such people do exist and that we girls should not be put off by them.
There are others who just have so much life in them that I feel so happy just by seeing them. I just love people who have a zest for life. Whenever I come across such people, I think to myself; life hands you all kinds of things, so instead of cribbing about life, it is so much fun to think about the brighter side of everything. After a series of incidents, I realized one thing : "If you love life, life will love you back" So I decided that I am going to be a happy soul and try to always think about the positive experiences and also see the bright side in the negative experiences. Happiness is contagious. I observed that whenever I am full of joy and smiling, people around me are also happy and look at me with such warmth and joy. We just don't realize that if one person is happy, all the people surrounding that person are also happy.
Each new experience prepares us to handle life better. There are different kinds of people out there and each kind teaches us a new lesson. I am a changed person now and I feel that I have changed for the better. People changed me , experiences with different people changed me .
2 comments:
hey, nice blog.. and yes there are still people in this world who are prejudiced about women, dat too in India( a nation rooted with tradition and culture, some of which are oudated), dint know there were people(read male chauvinists) in US too who were so backward in their thoughts... sad to know that.. Also there are some good natured men but their only negative is that they are prejudiced(unfortunately) and except this, they may not have any other problems so dont start feeling negative about that person... the world is how you think it is afterall... ok here s one incident from my side: the other day i dropped my best friend home and i dint know she was having problems @ home, so i dropped her home and her father called me in and he is like- "swalpa buddi helappa nin friend ge" i was silent and he went on saying" neen awal kintha educated alwa and ninge knowledge jasthi ide adakke ninge heltha idini(m doing engg and she s studying commerce)" i had 2 stay silent cos i respect elders, besides her whole family is pretty close to me :( now all this is going on in front of my friend, imagine her state( u can relate cos she took comp science in our college(SKCH) only for first year and then she shifted to commerce cos she knew science was not for her) i felt so bad.. and her father continued saying she ought to learn doing chores at home cos she will need it in the near future,and they are not forcing her to pursue education too cos she is a girl and in the end knowing how to run a household is what is gonna be useful to her... and he said a lot of other things too but u get the point na?
anyways i really felt bad but alas! what could i do?!?! This is one incident i witnessed but this is not the only one, this is what happens in a lot of households here.. its unfortunate.. when will people wake up!! its frustrating! anyway nice blog, dint know u observe people that much.. wud love to know wat u observed about me :P( if u remember that is :P) keep writing, u have the gift, dont waste it... btw i have written a blog too, first time in my life i have written anything :P its incomparable with urs so read it w/o any expectations:http://bluevolt-flag-off.blogspot.com/
happy blogging!
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You should have told him how successful your sister has been with computers, electronics & engineering.
You could also have told him how you are good enough in CS that you work for USC's ITS.
If you see a slow motion film of you slapping him though.. then its a sign you've been watching a bit too many movies or Indian dramas! hahaha :)
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